Whether in love or business, persevering through challenging times may reap the greatest rewards. There may be times when you feel like you just can’t go on. Your workplace or love life is riddled with the same old insurmountable problems, that no matter what you do, no solutions appear on the horizon. Granted, some situations may be beyond your control, or worse, harmful to your health or well-being, and the best course of action may be to exit stage left. But, when in your gut you know there is a greater purpose for you to stay the course, here are some insights that may help you do just that.
- Resilience – I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told that I needed to develop a thicker skin. In love and business, I would read too deeply into what people said to me. I took things personally that I shouldn’t have. Few people are eloquent speakers; sometimes they just don’t know how best to articulate the message they want to deliver. While difficult, I’d listen, sometimes cry like a wimp on the inside, and take some time to process the intended message. More often than not, a good lesson was buried in there, and when I made sense of it, l was better for it. Sometimes, it’s you and not them, and if you give up too fast, you might miss it.
- Personal Growth – I stayed in my first full-time job for ten years, five years longer than I felt I should. It was a great job, but I felt ready for the next step and it wasn’t being offered to me. Truth be told, I was scared to throw all of my energy into a job search, but I knew for certain that there was more out there . I decided to stop being whiny and miserable at work asked for more responsibility, without insisting on a raise. I wanted to prove myself to my employer, but most importantly to myself. In my mind, I pretended to be my boss. I owned the work I took on and performed it the way I’d want “my staff” to. I developed professionally more in those five years than I could have imagined and it prepared me for my boss’s job at a different place of employment. A change in your mindset and your approach might make the relationship more fruitful.
- Fulfillment – This year, I will be married to my husband for 21 years, and there have been times when I was d-o-n-e! I married when I was twenty years old, just a baby in hindsight. We have been through the highest highs and the lowest lows, but at the core of our relationship we have love, trust and respect. Some of us have been in our jobs for the same amount of time, or longer, and just like marriage we have experienced highs and lows. And considering that we spend as much time – or more – at work as with our partners, our jobs are our other loves. Sticking it out with my husband has shown me what love, compromise and appreciation really mean. When you conquer obstacles in work and personal relationships, you open yourself to greater understanding of the self and others, which can be deeply fulfilling. It might help you be successful and happy in ways you never imagined.
Most treasures in life take a lot of work to uncover. If you instinctively know that the pot of gold is on the other side of the rainbow, regardless of the typhoon you might currently be weathering, stay the course. The sun won’t always be hiding, and when it shines, use SPF 50 and carry on.